Neutralizing Negative Dating Self-Talk Handout
- (Excerpted and adapted from the book Self Matters; Creating Your Life from the
Inside Out) Exercise
Imagine you are scheduled to go on a date tomorrow and it’s the night before (If you really have a date that’s even better). Now jot down the self talk you have been having for the past 2 hours. Write down what you have been telling yourself about:
Your skills and abilities
The Litmus Test for Your Beliefs
Take your beliefs and ask the following:
1. Is it true?
2. Does holding on to the thought or belief serve your best interests?
3. Are your thoughts and beliefs advancing your and protecting your sense of wellbeing?
4. Does this attitude or belief get me more of what I want, need or deserve?